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Little Tommy turtle

February 22, 2009

Tommy

 

A little turtle begins to slowly climb a tree. After a long time, and with great effort, he reaches the top, jumps into the air waving his front legs frantically, and crashes heavily into the ground.

After recovering consciousness he starts to climb the tree again, jumps once more, but again crashes to the ground.

The little turtle does this again and again, while all the time his heroic efforts are watched with sadness by a couple of birds perched on a nearby branch.

Finally, the female bird says to the male bird, “Dear, don’t you think it’s time to tell Tommy he’s adopted?”

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Reality affirmation

February 17, 2009

Reality check

 

 

 

The following is one of my favorite affirmations, courtesy of the folks at re-evaluation co-counseling:

“Although I am completely incompetent and completely incapable of facing the challenges that reality places before me, unfortunately I happen to be the best person available!”

The games of the devil, part 1

January 3, 2009

Wee beasty

The following is an extract from a book called “The Screwtape Letters” by C.S. Lewis. It recounts the mentoring of a junior devil (Wormwood) by a senior devil (Screwtape) on how to trap a particular soul.

In the book Lewis uses the diabolical point of view to describe the human condition—in relation to ourselves, to one another, and to God. He particularly focuses on the struggles that we go through in trying to become God conscious, but from the perspective of someone hell-bent on ruining our chances of spiritual success.

I liked the piece below since it deals with a particular aspect of relationships. It is a little long, but is an exquisite piece of writing.

Personally I could certainly relate to the ideas he discusses and I hope that others will find it interesting. Let me know what you think! 

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My dear Wormwood,

I am very pleased by what you tell me about this man’s relations with his mother. But you must press your advantage…

1. Keep his mind on the inner life. He thinks his conversion [to Christianity] is something inside him and his attention is therefore chiefly turned at present to the states of his own mind…

You must bring him to a condition in which he can practise self-examination for an hour without discovering any of those facts about himself which are perfectly clear to anyone who has ever lived in the same house with him or worked in the same office.

2. It is, no doubt, impossible to prevent his praying for his mother, but we have means of rendering the prayers innocuous. Make sure that they are always very “spiritual”, that he is always concerned with the state of her soul and never with her rheumatism.

Two advantages follow.

In the first place, his attention will be kept on what he regards as her sins, by which, with a little guidance from you, he can be induced to mean any of her actions which are inconvenient or irritating to himself. Thus you can keep rubbing the wounds of the day a little sorer even while he is on his knees; the operation is not at all difficult and you will find it very entertaining.

In the second place, since his ideas about her soul will be very crude and often erroneous, he will, in some degree, be praying for an imaginary person, and it will be your task to make that imaginary person daily less and less like the real mother—the sharp-tongued old lady at the breakfast table.

In time, you may get the cleavage so wide that no thought or feeling from his prayers for the imagined mother will ever flow over into his treatment of the real one. I have had patients of my own so well in hand that they could be turned at a moment’s notice from impassioned prayer for a wife’s or son’s “soul” to beating or insulting the real wife or son without a qualm.

3. When two humans have lived together for many years it usually happens that each has tones of voice and expressions of face which are almost unendurably irritating to the other. Work on that.

Bring fully into the consciousness of your patient that particular lift of his mother’s eyebrows which he learned to dislike in the nursery, and let him think how much he dislikes it. Let him assume that she knows how annoying it is and does it to annoy—if you know your job he will not notice the immense improbability of the assumption.

And, of course, never let him suspect that he has tones and looks which similarly annoy her. As he cannot see or hear himself, this is easily managed.

4. In civilised life domestic hatred usually expresses itself by saying things which would appear quite harmless on paper (the words are not offensive) but in such a voice, or at such a moment, that they are not far short of a blow in the face.

To keep this game up you and Glubose must see to it that each of these two fools has a sort of double standard. Your patient must demand that all his own utterances are to be taken at their face value and judged simply on the actual words, while at the same time judging all his mother’s utterances with the fullest and most oversensitive interpretation of the tone and the context and the suspected intention.

She must be encouraged to do the same to him.

Hence from every quarrel they can both go away convinced, or very nearly convinced, that they are quite innocent. You know the kind of thing: “I simply ask her what time dinner will be and she flies into a temper.”

Once this habit is well established you have the delightful situation of a human saying things with the express purpose of offending and yet having a grievance when offence is taken…

Your affectionate uncle,

Screwtape

Is therapy anartha-nivrtti?

January 1, 2008

The following discussion is a little bit esoteric and is aimed primarily (though not exclusively) at members of ISKCON (the International Society for Krishna consciousness). This discussion may not be of interest to those suffering the effects of trauma and who are seeking assistance in returning to health. (more…)

Interesting quote

May 14, 2007

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Marianne Williamson